CAPACITY BUILDING NETWORK – What we have to say about rape.

CAPACITY BUILDING NETWORK – What we have to say about rape.

It’s no longer news that the word “rape” has taken over the Nigerian internet’s street lately.

Millions of Nigerian have taken to the social media to lend their voices against rape, and the members of the Capacity Building Network (CBN2020) are not left behind.

Here are some critical thoughts by some of them and I bet you, you will find a lot of wisdom in there. Enjoy reading,

Olaniyi Emmanuel

We need to educate every boy and guy about rape and its implication, not just rape, but sexual harassment and molestation.

Oluwatunmike Esther

Teach the boy child that every female should be treated with respect. Teach him how to care for his sisters or females around him right while growing up, so he will not depart from it when he is grown. Teach our boys that sexual urge is very healthy, but it is essential to have self-control. Teach our girls not to “lead guys on”, if they are not interested in them.

Ayorinde Olawunmi

Make our men understand that we are not a thing, we are not an object, we are human, and we are women!

Teach them self-control else they will make life miserable for girls while she lives with pain and stigma forever. Teaching our young women to value and respect their body and avoid exposing what is ought to be covered so as not to increase the sexual urge of the opposite sex

Jolayemi Momoh

I am sorry to disagree on the issues of exposure and what is being taught. I believe in the old days, girls wear only wrappers to the stream. Moreover, even now, children are being raped. Abuse, of any type, stems from the same or closely related causes. Teach the male child he is not a god, teach him to respect himself, show him he can be vulnerable, and teach him to value weakness. But even more importantly teach your girls to protect themselves, people get killed every day; men women children, so teach her to fight for herself.

Oluwabunmi Abiola

Let all parents be taught to be responsible to sow good seed into their children. Let them be taught to raise all their children the same way and be intentional about it, both boys and girls are being raped

Timothy Ameloko

Let us create a petition platform for the Nigerian lawmakers against rape for people to sign. They need to review the crime of rape and its punishment because as it stands, it is tough to prove a rape crime beyond reasonable doubt not to talk of winning a rape case in the country.

At the side of the coin is that some women use rape to blackmail men. Let the punishment for those found guilty of that be severe as well.

Women hardly rape men; it is mostly men raping women, so I would not say much on that. Rape punishment should not be 6months imprisonment; it should be up to 10years imprisonment with hard labour


Rape is a sin, and all crimes have root causes. The trending stop rape everyone is posting will make little or no impact if the contingent causes are not addressed.

This may be needed, but how about when females present themselves as a sexual object in music videos. The lyrics also address them as sexual objects.

Our society is filled with harmful activities, and we are expecting a positive outcome? We need to critically examine the causes of rape and launch strong campaigns against them. Rape is a product of some abnormalities.

Gloria Okorafor

I am weak. The whole stuff is painful. First off, accusing all men, as rapists will not solve a thing, instead, it lends succour to the “rapists” that they are not alone. So much perversion everywhere, the system is sick. Perpetrators know that little or nothing would be done to them. How many rapists have faced judicial trial in Nigeria?

 We live in a society where fornication is excused for the males, with excuses made for them that it is like food to them and they cannot stop once they are turned on. We cry out to the girl child to be self-controlled and how her husband would value her chastity, but no one or few people address the males. Boys will always be boys are our slogan, see us now.

Many youths are engrossed in porn sites and magazines. We do not lend our voice to fight against some organizations that use the lives and destinies of young boys as a business; we just keep quiet and hope none of our loved ones gets involved.

Human nature is sorely deprived, and an overhaul of the system is needed. Personally, I believe prayers and right actions will go a long way. We must not wait until we carry banners and placards.

It can begin by telling the little boy not to touch his little sister’s privates; admonishing the mother to discipline her ill-mannered son and not make silly excuses for him. We cry against the entertainment industry.

If society is not keeping them in business, they will not be in business. We sing their songs, dance seductively, and then complain about the effects? That is so wrong. I personally do not like some of the Success videos that seem funny as they portray disrespect and dishonour all in the name of making a joke.

Still, some families sit together and watch these things and everyone laughs and we all marvel when a little boy talks rudely to a big aunty.

In summary, a reformation is needed, and it begins with us

Morenike Egbeyemi

Although much has been said, I would like to add my little quota, which might be similar to some answers already given. There is more to rape than meets the eye.

However, I believe before society can be reformed, the basic building blocks that make up this society have to be dealt with. Here, I refer to the family and each individual that make up this unit (the family).

I am a staunch believer of the statement ‘ We are a product of our nature (environment) and nurture (upbringing). The different environments we find ourselves in and the nurture we get, play a significant role in who we become. A good and quality education would help.

In this case, I mean excellent and quality family education, children education, sex education- all forms of quality education. That could pass across messages against rape, sexual harassment and assaults.

Aside this, individuals (especially grown-ups -males and females) need to nurture themselves, I mean, renew their mindset themselves.

They need to teach themselves to be of ethical conduct. “A good individual, no matter how much quality training he/she receives, further trains him/herself to become the best”- Another Yoruba quote I believe in.

Even in cases where he/she did not have access to the best upbringing, it is never an excuse for acting irrationally; I feel such a person can become better. People have been in such shoes, yet they came out strong, theirs will not be the last

Rape is a consequence

The society indirectly endorsed rape the moment she supports all forms of porn, suggestive images and animations. Women are portrayed as sex objects in our movies and music videos.

You don’t expect to teach a child to avoid rape and yet permit the media to distort his sexual innocence from a very tender age.

When the bible says “Train up a child in the way, he should go, And when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6, he is not talking about just using rods but also protecting the child’s innocence.

We are going to fight rape, but let’s start from the root cause. Shouting “#saynotorape” on social media cannot stop the rape if we are not going to fix the rapidly decaying morality in the system.

The act of rape is a consequence of the decaying system. Leave that out of your narrative, and you will never get it right.

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